This past weekend something strange and uncalled for came up and I thought it was really important to address.
A boy that I don’t know very well confronted me over text for ultimately no reason except that he was feeling badly about himself so he thought he’d take it out on me. His intent was clearly to hurt my feelings and make me feel like a terrible person, though he failed haha sorry.
One of the many things he said in an attempt to offend me was (and I quote),
“To go back to my travel blog and pretend like that can actually be a feasible career lol you have to actually have money to travel and being a journalism major you aren’t make more than $50,000 a year. Good luck on dedicating your time to something that’s only a hobby.”
Ouch right? I am just going to thank the LORD that I have such a thick skin and that people like this really can’t get to me (no matter how hard one might try).
But I do have to say, this is probably the meanest thing anything anyone has ever said to me (though this wasn’t even the most aggressive part of the entire text, I can tell you that).
First of all, it was just baffling that someone felt the need to put me down to make themselves feel better. Second of all, I barely know him and for someone to take something I love and throw it in my face? How sad.
But I digress.
After enduring this spectacle, I started thinking how interested I am about what other people make of my life aspirations.
It’s clearly not “feasible” to people who can only think of life as a tiny, little box.
Life is simple in their eyes. Go to grade school, go to high school, go to college, get a job, get married, have kids, retire, die. Was that too blunt? Well, let’s be real here, that’s how life goes for a vast majority of the world. It’s not a bad thing for people to take that route, don’t get me wrong. But I’ve already addressed it in previous posts, I personally don’t want to live that way. End of story.
Additionally, if I really cared about making more than $50,000 a year than I would have pursued a profession that makes more than $50,000 a year.
Small-minded people are clearly small-minded people.
So, if I actually cared what other people thought, what would these texts have done to me?
Maybe I would have taken this blog down, deleted all my posts even though I had invested hundreds of dollars into its making. Maybe I would say, “Traveling isn’t worth it. I should get a job! This is crazy talk, Maggie! Your goals aren’t realistic because one irrelevant kid said so, who are you kidding?”
I’m laughing while I write this because I would never in a million years think either of those thoughts. It’s true what they say, “Haters are your motivators!” because when people put you down, all you want to do is prove them wrong.
Reading those texts just made me think how much better I will feel when I actually do make it halfway across the world. Maybe I won’t like full-time travel and return after a few months or within a year. But that will be okay because I know I tried it out and got the experience I needed to return home. Or maybe I’ll love it and never want to come back. As long as I go after what I want, I don’t care what the outcome ends up being.
Ultimately, it doesn’t really matter what others think as long as I’m doing what I want to do. You don’t owe anything to anyone and should not let other opinions affect you.
People will want to see you fail, people will not want you to be happy. It’s a sad truth but these people exist (refer back to example A, above).
I don’t want anyone to be made to feel like their goals aren’t relevant and that they can’t be achieved.
This all goes back to something I said earlier about how people let go of their dreams because of a multitude of reasons.
One big reason is usually because of naysayers who are so unhappy with their own lives that they try and convince other’s that they’ll never amount to anything. They say that what makes you happy is completely unrealistic and will never pay off in the end. And sadly, people listen to these things. The opinion of others is too great to ignore.
I can’t stress enough how you much you should THROW THESE PEOPLE OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
Literally throw them away. In the trash can. Soon to be in a garbage truck. That will be driving 500 miles east of your home where you will hopefully never hear from them again.
“A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinion of sheep.”
– George R.R Martin
Sorry, I had to add a Game of Thrones quote but also, it’s true.
You are in control, you’re the one who determines whether or not unsupportive people can get to you.
So now, I guess I can say I’ve met the first person to blatantly say they want me to fail. Will this affect me and make me change all my future plans for myself? Oh, god no.
And if any one of you happen across someone like this, please don’t let them get to you. You’re goals are worth more than one naysayers opinion.
So to end this post, I want thank everyone who has ever supported my crazy and unfeasible endeavors.
I’m where I am today because of you.